Schminky (original poster new member #87822) posted at 1:47 AM on Wednesday, October 14th, 2026
My hubby and I are in the process of reconciliation, D day was 30 July when he found out I have been texting another man on and off for a few years. It's been a tough few months but we are making progress I believe, he has been incredibly calm throughout it all and has shown me kindness and I'm hopeful we can eventually reconcile.
But I'm really struggling with something and I'm not sure if I'm just reading too much into it and if I should say something.. I've got access to my husbands phone and I've noticed there are texts between him and a female ex colleague he use to work with a few years back. Every few months he gets together with the old gang from his previous job, including this woman. Now I have no idea if they have always texted eachother, because I just checked his phone during the last 2 weeks and have seen the msges.
They are completely friendly, nothing suspicious but I see it's daily and he has her on mute and he always deletes the msgs. I don't think he knows I have access to his phone.
It's just because of where we are at the moment in our lives that I'm feeling so insecure and jealous:( I don't know if I should just ask him about it??
Thanks for your advice.
