The1stWife (original poster guide #58832) posted at 2:22 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
Meeting a colleague of my H’s for dinner last week. She arrived a few minutes before us and as soon as I saw her, I had to stop a second.
She looks very very much like his last OW.
I had to sit through an entire two hour dinner with this thought. She was a very nice person and I enjoyed meeting her, but just when you think you’ve moved on, there is something that just has to remind you of the affair.
I didn’t tell my H because there was no need to bring it up. He may not even realize there is a resemblance (strong resemblance lol) and would probably disagree.
Doubt there will be future dinners though.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
SackOfSorry ( member #83195) posted at 2:45 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
"What are the odds?" This is a question I ask myself a lot. And so many times the answer is "apparently 100%."
Me - BW DDay - May 4, 2013
And nothing's quite as sure as change. (The Mamas and the Papas)
NoThanksForTheMemories ( member #83278) posted at 5:47 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
The effects of trauma are long lasting, but it sounds like you handled yourself with grace. What more can we ask of ourselves?
How do you think he'd react if you did mention it?
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
The1stWife (original poster guide #58832) posted at 7:18 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
I’m certain my H would say there was no resemblance. At all. He would believe it 100%.
That’s why it’s not worth mentioning.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
