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Posted this in reconciliation and after reading it again my mind is all over the place.

I'm back after 10 years. At least I think I am...

Husband seemed a bit off so before his business trip I checked his bag and there were some viagra in there. Now that's not the issue because he could have put them there for a trip we took together. The issue is when he returned from business trip there was 1 missing. Yes I counted it was easy as there were only a few in there. That was 4 months ago. About 2 months ago before another business trip it appears he added one. It's a different brand that he has in his drawer. When he returned from that trip the pill was still there. In the midst of this he believes I was having an emotional affair with a friend of ours. I haven’t confronted him yet. Truthfully I know he's capable of getting me to believe whatever excuse he may have. Or is there a logical explanation for a Viagra to go missing while on a trip? Maybe I just leave it alone? I have a good life and I just want peace.

Why won’t I just confront him? It’s really starting to bother me. I’m 59 years old and perhaps that’s what is holding me back. Do I really want to start over?

Sister,

I can not imagine any other reason a guy would carry viagra (consuming it changing brands, etc) on a trip other than "this is a no longer fit man with a not well functioning apparatus that is planning to have sex with prostitutes while nobody is looking "

I assume prostitutes because if he was having an affair he would have some stashed away at his AP place.

In all good will that is the most likely explanation.

And since you already fought this terror in your past your system feels that confrontation will cast you back in the abyss.

However I feel you already are thee, your mind might be just trying to deny it so it will not see that is drowning back in once again.

In this case confrontation could help you to at least reclaim your agency.

Is terrible that you have to go through again, but I am afraid he is cheating and he is not healed nor a safe partner.

Just a cheater

I dont know much about these types of pills other than what they are for, so take this with a grain of salt.

Not trying to defend him, but for your own sanity I think all possibilities should be examined.

Is it possible he's using them to gratify himself instead of cheating? Do you have any other evidence? Or is it just the pills?

Thank you both I truly appreciate the 2 perspectives. Unfortunately my gut knows what really happened. I didn’t confront originally because son was getting married and I didn’t want to be the cause of chaos. I’m just so confused on what to do