Married -2022
D-Day-PA/EA- WW 06/2024Reconciling for 15 months so far.
Advice on Expressing Flasbacks of DDay to Spouse
I know a lot of people have posted about having moments where they see something that triggers them and brings their thoughts to DDay or just those thoughts just appear out of nowhere.
How do you all address them with your spouse.
I ask, because I’ve noticed I will become extremely withdrawn when those thoughts appear. And I understand my wife is feeling guilt, shame and embarrassment from DDay. However, she can tell when I get withdrawn and start to shutdown. Obviously, she feels as if she had done something wrong at that specific moment. However, it has nothing to do with that moment, but moments that occurred months ago. The last thing I want to do is add to those feelings of guilt and shame.
Is it better to express to her that I randomly have started to think about DDay. It’s easier if there is a trigger, but random pop up thoughts? It makes it seems like that’s all I think about then. Or maybe I’m overthinking this?
11 comments posted: Thursday, October 16th, 2025
Being Bombarded with Infidelity Posts on Social Media
I haven’t posted on here at all, but I have read as many posts as I could to help me through this situation.
My DDay was last year in June. So it hasn’t been too long in the reconciliation process and even during that short time there were setbacks. Which we did overcome and I’m assuming there might be more on both our ends.
Anyway, I’ve come to find out just like movies and tv shows, cheating is a major topic that keeps showing up on social media. For weeks on end it disappears but then it remerges. Even if I press "uninterested".
Sometimes it makes me second guess why I’m even trying to fix us. Basically, at times it reminds me of the pain that was inflicted by someone that’s not supposed to do that to you.
For the ones who are still in reconciliation or even the ones who’s not, how do you deal with it.
10 comments posted: Saturday, September 27th, 2025
